We all carry it into relationships. Some of it is known by us. We know where it came from and why its there. Other times, it is like a time bomb hidden among our carryon ready to go off when the situation is right.
I am pretty well aware of my own baggage that I bring with me - baggage that can have an impact on how I react to situations or how I am. Baggage that whoever is with me gets the pleasure of getting to know. But lately, I am finding the time bombs I didn’t realize were in there too. Much to the dismay of those around me including me.
So, I decided maybe its time to make my own baggage inventory - the list of things that make me who I am and mark my reaction to them.
Those are my bags that I know about. With self awareness also comes the awareness of what is being brought along as I go into relationships and travel through life. I also feel awareness is how I am going to start shedding them - or at least stashing them in the basement along with the other mementos of the past.
I also think this is why relationships are hard. Everyone brings bags with them. My goal is to carry my own bags. I’ll let people help me shed them, but I will never let them carry them. Those bags are my own to, well, own. Some are getting lighter or I’ve had to trade down for smaller bags simply because people have given me perspective that has allowed me to see that I don’t need to lug around that much stuff. I just hope that the trend continues. That my awareness continues. Because, to be honest, that are way too many bags to still have around - or at least, they seem like it now that I’ve done an inventory of the ones I know of.
What bags are you carrying with you?