If you could shed something, what would it be? Think about how good it would feel to not have it. You could feel more warmth from those around you. What a great way to celebrate Independence Day - freedom from the pieces of you keeping you from the light.
Nothing more needs to be said, I think. This is a good mantra to remember. No one has a magic wand. Both people have to be willing to apologize and accept an apology. Both people have got to want to work together to be together - 100% of commitment in the relationship. This is one thing that cannot be a 50-50 split.
Whether it be art - or life - or a problem - look at it too much and too hard, and it will morph into something it was never intended to be. Look at it, analyze it, conclude and move on. Don't look too long or you will risk finding things not there.